Is Lack Of Finance Enough Reason To Remain In An Abusive Marriage?
Domestic violence, a form of behaviour involving violence or abuse by one person against the other is not limited to physical battery alone.It could be emotional, verbal, blackmail or even sexual.
FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
ABUSER BELIEVES IT IS ACCEPTABLE /JUSTIFIED:Abusers usually back their actions up by saying their partners did wrong and needed to be corrected.
THE ABUSER STILL HOLDS ON: Our culture in Africa doesn’t encourage women to leave an abusive marriage, the thought of how they will cope and the shame and mockery they will receive from so called friends d’s and family members alone discourage women from taking that decision.
THE CHILDREN ARE MOSTLY AFFECTED:Children that grow up in an abusive home where the father constantly abuse their mother end up with the wrong mentality about dating and marriage. .
The boys grow up with the mindset that is only through beating a woman that you can get her to be submissive, the girls on the other hand believes that no matter how bad their men treat them, no matter how much he humiliates them, no matter how often he hits them,they must endure because of the mentality of”it is a woman that makes a marriage work” .
Children that grow up under these type of caustic environment generally tend to exhibit violent behaviour even at a very you g age.They bully their mates in school.
LOWERS SELF ESTEEM:Constant beating/abuse on a woman by her partner lowers her self worth, she is weakened, feels worthless and defeated.
After reading all these facts, then you wonder why women still stay in such relationship, could it be because they don’t have the finances especially in a married woman’s case who has got children.
Personally, I don’t think that’s enough reason to stay in an abusive marriage. We have heard cases of working class ladies who support the family, whose husbands collect their salary from them as soon as they get paid.She bears all the financial responsibilities in the house meant for a man and that same man still beat her and atimes ends up killing her.
Women marriage is good but if he starts abusing you , it’s time to cry out for help.
P.S:”IF HE HITS YOU ONCE, HE WILL DO IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN”.
Do you have more to say about this topic? Do you know of any person being abused? Have you been a victim? What did you do? How was your case resolved?
It’s time to get talking and share our experience.
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